Good for you BigE. I also try to bike in flagrant conformity with the law, and thank the other cyclists who stop with me at lights. I'm also not shy about telling cyclists without headlights after dark that they're life is worth a $15 headlight (white) that the law requires.
Another safety thought:
Defy the local car-driver culture that avoids eye contact.
People driving in Boston are culturally-bound to not make eye contact. As a non-native it was one of the first things I noticed: how people who cut you off or block you out get an unnaturally stiff neck all of sudden so as not to see you. As a visitor (front seat passenger) in the Sumner Tunnel merge, my cousin was explicitly instructed not to make eye contact (as Southerners do), or the driver (a Boston native) would have to let a guy in.
The goal of "not seeing" is not admitting the equal humanity of all road users, and so not having to share or take turns or any of the other things we learned to do in social settings, schools, and crowded sidewalks.
Cyclists ape this mistake to their detriment (particularly when ashamed that they are running lights, it seems). Yet,
Making eye contact is a recommended safety measure.
First, turning your face toward drivers increases your visibility. The
human brain is hard-wired to detect faces--to seek them out
even when there aren't any, (
Pareidolia ain't just a second baseman ;-) but particularly when they are real and approaching (or staring), even peripherally.
Second, eye contact underscores your humanity and the social nature of sharing the road.
My own experience has been that cars that were coasting through a stop sign on a right cross street keep coasting until just a second after I judge we've made eye contact. Conversely, where eye contact isn't made, I'd say they keep right on drifting through (very often they never turn their head to look directly at cross traffic...which is also a good thing for a cyclist to ascertain about a crossing driver).